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[life-is-beautiful]

MaidOfMany, on 29 April 2010 - 05:52 PM, said:

We have 3 kids and no willpower lol.

Basically we decided it had to be done, and for me its classed as a major operation and I would be bed bound for 2-6 weeks, plus the fatalities/side effects etc were a lot higher.

For him, its a simple vists and they can go to work the next day. That simplified it lol.

He had it done, and he has previous scar tissue from another personal operation, so it was a bit harder for him than it would be for an ordinary person, but some blue balls for a couple of days and tight undies (ugh to undies lol) was the total of it.

So true we were the same it had to be done otherwise we would be like the Duggers and be expecting baby number 19

Indies_mum, on 29 April 2010 - 07:49 PM, said:

I have the opposite issue at the moment. My dh really really want's to get a vasectomy and i just don't feel ready to let him do it im 27 he is 33 and i feel more and more everyday that i think i may want a 3rd. He really doesn't want anymore kids (though i know if i felt so strong about a third he would) and his compromise is that he is happy to get sperm stored just incase..........i'm just not sure

I was the same and still feel the same i would have loved a 4th but being together is more important at the end of the day.

DF decied he would have it done it was easier for him, even when i had to have surgery a few weeks before his surgery i could have had my tubes tied but decied against it due to possible side effects.

DF first snip was a failure and next week will will find out if the second one was, fingers crossed it worked this time

[kimroseaus]

My DH has been saying only 2 kids for years....and here we are pregnant with number 3!! I've been saying 3, c'mon one more, maybe not, oh yes maybe one more, etc etc. So anyway here we are pregnant and he is saying - right thats it 3 is all we are having. Then when I say well off you go and get the chop he says - no bloody way.

Ok so he doesn't want any more kids (he's 41), I really don't mind how many we have. I'm concerned that he is putting all the contraception responsibility onto me. I've been on the pill since I was 15 (went off it 4 years ago) ...thats a lot of years remembering to take drugs at the same time every day!!

I really don't think this is about planning for our separation and having kids with another partner, its about what will work and be easiest for us for the next 10 years? or so that we MIGHT still fall pregnant. Also it would mean an operation for me and a week or so of recovery and not being able to look after our soon to be 3 kids.

Also he hasn't got much info about it and hasn't asked at the Dr about it, his younger brother and a few mates have had it done and they are all still living and having sex. So not sure why he is so against it and of course the wall goes up whenever I try to bring it up......where to from here?????????????????????

[keziopia]

well it sounds like when the time is right the guys go and do it them self's.

I think in the mean time i will start chatting with my OB about some long term contraception so i have my self covered.

[Nomadic]

Just make sure you're either way... My sis and her hubby had 3 kids by the time they were 23, her DH had to go through some counselling to get it done since they were young. They were adament they had enough (and all 3 were conceived while she was on the pill so nothing really worked for them). Roll on 6 years, all their friends are having babies, they're at a different place in their life. He had it reversed and it failed. 3 and a bit years later they are both still dealing with the fact they'll never have any more. My sister does her best to convince everyone that it's better as they're youngest is now 11, but if she fell pregnant tomorrow I know she'd feel that little bit more complete.

This one will be number 5 for DH, number 2 for me, that's enough for us. He has said he'll go and get it done, if he doesn't well, I guess we'll see when number 6 arrives. I can't take the pill without becoming a complete pyscho and both of us hate condoms. Maybe ask some of your friends and find out if any of their husband's have had it done and could have a chat to him? I think if it weren't for the baby at the end bit I'd be pretty freaked about someone playing with my bits.

Edited by Nomadic, 29 April 2010 - 11:42 PM.